Helping A Friend In Need

times in our lives, we are faced with a friend whoMany people don’t listen to their bodies
needs our help. In trying to help them, we try to figurebecause they don’t trust what their body is
out the best ways to do that, even though we maytelling them. Our bodies are a confusing blend of our
feel that the answer may be staring them in the face.wants, needs and desires, which may not agree with
We have often heard it said in the spiritual world thatour mental state or our emotional needs. It has been
when we seek advice, “the answer lies withinsaid hat our bodies are a “confusing blend of
us”. There are some good questions that shouldGod’s handiwork and the devil’s
be answered by the person who is seeking help. Manyplayground.” Our intelligence tells us that we
times it takes somebody on the outside to get thatreally do have an interconnection of all our parts. Our
person to look inside themselves for answers.bodies are made up of trillions of cells that together
We can help a friend by getting them to think aboutform an awareness club that we can turn to when we
and answer the question, “How do I feel aboutare confused about a problem or a solution.
this problem?” Many times a person may be soWe are always reminded to relax and listen to our
involved in their own troubles that they don’tbodies. Is our stomach bothering us? Could that be the
even stop to think about how they really feel. If they“gut reaction” that we are looking for? Is
took the problem out of their own life and looked itour heart pounding? Could that be the excitement of
from a different angle, how would they feel about it?starting over or the anxiety of something being lost? If
We need to be able to get that person to really thinkhelping someone with their problems causes their
about their problem from a different perspective andfeelings to explode, could that be an insight that will
try to come up with some solutions that might helplead to another path?
solve the problem.When we look for answers, we can think of a person
To be able to solve a problem, we need to get ourthat we trust to give us guidance. We can se your
friend, or even ourselves, to ask, “Is this goodinner knowledge to decide who to trust. If we relax for
for me? Is it good today both mentally, physically anda few minutes, breathe deeply, we can see what
spiritually? Will it be just as good for me tomorrow andimage will come to us. Can you envision your
every day after that?” We may think that beinggrandparent’s face as one to be trusted? If the
able to answer those questions should be easy andface doesn’t seem appropriate to the situation,
sometimes they are, at least in part. We mayit may be that person plays a part in the situation or
understand that the solution will be good for usthe problem. We need to use our rational mind to
physically but we may not have thought about what itchoose the person whose guidance we seek.
will be doing to us emotionally or even spiritually.As we help a friend (or ourselves) solve a problem,
As we try to figure out if our problem can easily bewe need to remember that we are trying to learn to
solved by talking about it, our bodies may have alive each day to the fullest. We can offer support,
different idea, so we need to ask, “What doesencouragement, and suggestions to the problems but
my body have to say about this?” Most often,as we face detours, we need to answer the important
when we have some kind of problem and try to solvequestions and take the high road with our answers.
it by taking shortcuts, our bodies respond negatively. IfThat is truly to only way we can help a friend in need.
we are not being true to ourselves with out solution,So, ask the questions and follow your answer, or have
we might end up with a headache, stomach ache orthem do the same.
back ache.