| Anger is not a very enjoyable emotion and it can | | | | Blame is another issue that comes up frequently with |
| cause many problems. We often feel helpless in our | | | | anger. Blame is very dis-empowering, and it is |
| anger, but there are some simple techniques we can | | | | sometimes sneaks its way into our psyche in disguise. |
| learn to help us reduce or eliminate our anger and | | | | Make a conscious decision to let go of blame just as |
| direct it in more healthy ways. | | | | you would let go of holding onto something that burns |
| Anger often is born out of a build up of stress, so the | | | | you. |
| first thing you can do is learn relaxation techniques that | | | | Expression is the last key to managing your anger. |
| you can use when you are feeling stressed. One | | | | Trying to suppress anger you feel only makes it fester |
| technique is simply taking a break and breathing deeply | | | | until it boils over or causes damage to you. Anger |
| and letting go of the tension held in your body. | | | | often can be unraveled by using the techniques just |
| It is our exaggerated and dramatic way of thinking that | | | | mentioned, but when it can't, it is important to express it |
| makes our anger escalate, so it is important to start | | | | in ways that do not harm you or others. Sometimes it |
| breaking the habit of this distorted way of thinking. | | | | is enough to communicate to someone, "I am angry |
| When we are angry, we might be imagining that | | | | because I feel like..." At other times it is not helpful or |
| people are deliberately trying to hurt us or that we are | | | | possible to talk to the person with whom you are |
| powerless or that things beyond our control matters | | | | feeling anger. General anger can also be expressed in |
| more than it actually does. | | | | painting (even if you are not an artist), in poetry or |
| Control issues especially come up with anger. We | | | | music, in a journal, or some other safe manner. Just be |
| need to learn that we can't control others but also that | | | | careful that when you are expressing your anger, you |
| we don't need to control others to be happy and safe. | | | | are letting go of it and not increasing your anger. |
| We only need to be able to direct our own thoughts | | | | Managing anger should always make you feel more |
| and behavior, and more consciously choose to take | | | | empowered. |
| positive things from situations and life. | | | | |